Around 80% of women who have a legal problem don’t get professional advice.
One of the main reasons for that is shame.
Particularly when someone thinks, “Well, I’ve failed myself. I’ve got myself into this situation”; they’re too embarrassed to tell someone the story. They think they will be judged.
It’s really unfortunate that they feel a deep sense of shame, and it’s unnecessary to feel that. Firstly, because there are legal professionals that really are here to help. Many of us have gone into being professionals because we want to help people. Secondly, there are many, many people in very similar situations. So don’t think that your situation is all that unique.
Finding the right lawyer means that you’ll find someone who you don’t feel is judging you. There shouldn’t be any judgment. There should just be, an empathetic assessment of the situation. What are your options moving forward?
With the right lawyer, you’ll get a sense that they’re there to help you solve the problem; for you to work through what you think you’ve failed and take responsibility for getting yourself in this situation and then getting yourself out.
If you got yourself into a situation, it’s under your control to get yourself out.
But get help, don’t just bury your head in the sand or just listen to the friend of a friend who gives you legal advice, without actually knowing your rights and obligations and what is available to you.
There actually are more free resources available than you probably know or think.
At Legally Wise Women, that’s what we’re here to help with. To direct you to the free information that you need, to help you find and hire the right lawyer if you need a lawyer, or at least find the right one to get some initial advice from, and to teach you how to work out what you want and actually negotiate for what you want by yourself as well.
So please don’t feel like you failed yourself or feel that much shame that you can’t talk to someone about it, or get some initial advice. That’s what we’re here for.